How To Psychoanalyze Someone: Chapter Three Their Past ; Free Excerpt

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Chapter Three Their Past

IT IS RARE PEOPLE SEE the world for what it is. Essentially we are walking filters; projecting our past experiences onto our present expe- rience. People easily manipulated are unaware of the workings of their minds, ignorant of their destructive search for the past to repeat itself again. Take control of your victim by replaying the past they continue to search for. Within this chapter are the major factors that determine how you replay your target’s past.

Transport Your Target to Child- hood
READERS ASK ME WHAT inspired the beginning of my books. The simple answer would be my crooked family. The parental techniques were built on a strict foundation of power dynamics. At a young age, using my sexuality to obtain my heart’s desires, and exploiting men was encouraged - if not the norm. Their parenting techniques primed me to seek out power. Using my desires for good, came the creation of this book.

Why is this important?
OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH our parents shaped and molded our perceptions - which become our reality. When we were born, we were a blank canvas. The painters of our empty canvas were our parents and/or guardians. The canvas being your mind, and the parents/guardians using the paint brushes to shape and mold your beliefs and perceptions of the world - including love.
A small number of people are aware of the workings of their families, thus yielding to these passed down beliefs. Most people don't stop to wonder: why do I believe this? Why do I behave this way? This loophole
in the ignorant human psyche, is where people like us come in; the ma- nipulators, the highly functioning sociopaths, and power seekers.
There are two factors with regards to how our parents/guardians/ family influence our perspectives on love. The first factor is your beliefs. Second; what characteristics you seek in prospective partners. If a child witnesses abuse between their parents - they’ll believe that’s what love is supposed to be. Correlating the first example with the second one - the person with this belief will seek out a partner who will validate these be- liefs. In this case, a partner who may be abusive.
How to find out their relationship with their parents:
THERE ARE SPECIFIC questions you should ask if you want to un- derstand your target’s relationship with their parents. Firstly, how and what you ask about their relationship with their parents or guardians de- pends solely on the kind of relationship you have with them, currently. On the contrary, if you’ve developed a close relationship - this is your cue to ask anything you’d need to know for your benefit. Listen for specif- ic things like if they are close with their family. Observe any patterns in your conversations about their parents. Most people are comfortable dis- cussing their family relations. If not - you’d have a lead. The more dys- functional the family is, the easier it is to control your target.
HERE I’LL DISCUSS TWO perfect examples. Jamie* lacked security in her family. Security was what she desperately wanted. There were many indirect ways I provided security for her. One of the few things was displaying a calm and collected mindset. I was firm about my decisions, and made some suggestions about activities we could do during our mee- tups - that implied how stable I was. Activities such as going to a cafe, having a healthy dinner, and if the weather permitted it - a walk in the
park. These activities were the complete opposite of what her standard friends would do: clubbing, drugs, drinking, and the like. She came to me to provide her deepest need: security.
The second example is a textbook case of a person seeking his parental characteristics in his partner. Ryan* is an attractive young man - and knows it. Getting any girl to be his girlfriend was easy for him. There was a pattern for him, he seemed to attract partners who were party go- ers, and drug users. These women were somehow tied to his mother. Ob- taining drugs, alcohol and free passes to parties. Like the women, Ryan's mother had her own choice of drugs: money and power. The ways these women went after drugs, were the same ways Ryan's mother retrieved money and power.
However, one girl came into the picture that got him to commit. While the other women shared similar traits, this girl shared one trait with his mother no other girl has: this woman ridiculed him, criticized him, made him feel unworthy. They're still together. This is the longest he's ever been with a woman.
Our subconscious minds search for people who inflict pain on our deepest wounds. This is because it thinks it is healing itself by finding more wounds, and it is familiar to us.
What to do with this information:
LISTEN CLOSELY TO HOW they describe their relationship with their parents.
Display their parents or guardian's traits they like, and validate their beliefs on love created by their parents. This is why you see people who lived in abusive households and you wonder why they can't just leave their abusive relationship - after all, it is the most logical solution - right? Try to avoid any parental traits your target despises in their parental fig- ures.

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