Different types of women and how to make them obsessed with you: (2/2)

**The first post was on my old wordpress blog**

Growing as a person, I've learned that placing people into these categories can be quite limiting, and unfair. However, when you are planning on using these on people, it's easier to understand your target's psychology, thus being able to make someone obsessed with you. Since most people aren't limited to one category, it's normal for a person to fit into many.

I thank the person who requested this post, as I know 90 percent of my audience are males, therefore this would be very helpful to him and anyone else who reads the post.
**The first post was on my old wordpress blog. **

#3: The individual

How you'll be able to tell:
This person is typically trying to distinguish how different they are from the crowds.

Listen for phrases such as: 
"I'm different"

Watch how they react to being compared to other people, particularly if a person tells this person they are very similar to someone else. If a woman does fit into the "individual" type, their responses may be negative. Followed by a negative response, they'll overcompensate and attempt to let you know just how "different they are", or "but s/he does/has this, does this - and I do not." 

Their psychology: 
From my observations, this is mainly a defense mechanism - as most reactions tend to be.... It is quite possible they truly have felt they've been left out, have been the underdog.

This type typically tends to act as if they do not follow standard social norms, but they're probably not as open minded as they'd like to be/like to believe they are. Perhaps they don't follow social norms, but if someone is trying constantly to prove they are "different/they do not follow social norms" - it is most likely they feel the need to separate themselves because perhaps they've learned this is how they can protect themselves. Another possibility would be they have been labelled as boring or had awful/bland comparisons to others.

How to make them obsessed:
Make them feel unique. Tell them you're not like others, get their opinions on decisions - because they've got such a unique view on things.. The key thing is making them feel and believing that they are unique.

What not to do: 
Don't compare them to anyone, even if it is positive. Don't talk about other people, and definitely do not talk about other people who may be "superior" to them on the level they wish to be. For example, a person who wants to appear intellectually superior, do not speak of someone who will threaten their sense of superiority.

------ #4: Gold digger

Haha, before you guys start bringing up my past and all that bullshit - keep in mind: I could've been living in a super fancy mansion, with this luxurious lifestyle that would make the top gold diggers look like fools, but I did not!

Listen for phrases such as: 
They're usually talking about goals, people, items that are either indirectly or directly linked to social/economic status. See how they react to topics that are not directly related to such topics.

Their psychology: 
From my observations, gold diggers are either stuck in their primal brain/survival brain (how will my children be protected, how basic needs will be met etc...),  their guardians were gold diggers, learned this was the only way to live the life they truly want, encouraged to use their sexuality to obtain their desires, sexualized as a child (unfortunately).

There are a number of reasons someone would resort to gold digging. However, a commonality between the many thought patterns: there is a limitation. Meaning, there is some sort of lack they feel, even if you don't notice it at first - you will later on. Followed by lack, there is a search for basic security.

How to make them obsessed:
First provide them emotional security, then physical security (if possible).

What not to do: 
Don't be inconsistent, physically and emotionally - at least in the beginning.

#5: The damsel in distress
Listen for phrases such as: 
It's okay if someone wants to share stories about their past trials and tribulations but it depends on the tone they use when sharing these stories. Are they a victim of circumstance, or have they gained strength from their past?

Their psychology: 
Learned helplessness.

How to make them obsessed:
Give them more drama, and encourage their self pity, be the "bad boy." Give them more drama, then save them from it.

What not to do: 
You can be stable, in fact you should be more stable than them. But, stable in a way that makes you the rescuer. You can't be more "messed up" than they are. They need someone who they can relate to, but desperately love being saved.

#7: The "chill" one/ beach bum 

These types aren't as open minded as they'd like to believe.

Listen for phrases such as: 
These types are somewhat similar to the first type, except they're always overcompensating. Wanting to appear as someone who is receptive, limitless boundaries, and go with the flow type. It's not so much about what they're saying, but how they say it. Someone who is not cool with going to parties, will say something like "oh, okay so what time is it?" "oh yeah, I love parties, I go to parties all the time" etc etc. Look for anything they're overcompensating in.

Their psychology: 
They're people pleasers. Society teaches us we shouldn't be so... closed minded, e.g. racist, perhaps they're misogynist, or no longer hold traditional values..

Of course, their minds tend to suppress and/or repress any close minded thoughts, that's when denial and overcompensation kick in. Typically they don't realize - which is where you can play a bit... lol...

How to make them obsessed:
This one will be different. Instead of making them feel like they're extremely open minded, provoke their close minded side. They might hate you for it, because this is a part of themselves their minds have been trying to suppress it for years. Then they were punished for being close minded. You're going to do the opposite. Make them think it's okay.

What not to do: 
Don't punish them. Well, you can but do not call them out on it - capitalize on their denial. A part of them knows it's wrong/not rational - so you can't completely punish them

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